Many people suffer from low self-esteem. The thing is, you probably won’t realise it. If it’s something you suffer from, you’ll know you do your best to hide it. Feeling like you’re going to fail at everything you’re going to do isn’t healthy. But it’s scary to think that so many of us are battling the same thing, in silence and alone.
Self-esteem is different to self-confidence, but the two are intrinsically linked. Most of us suffer from it some point. It’s ironic that those who tend to suffer from the condition the most can appear as if they are very much full of themselves. It’s a coping mechanism deployed to disguise their emotions, but it often backfires. It’s not uncommon for them to project their insecurities onto other people and become bullies. The vicious circle continues, and by making others feel bad, they momentarily feel better about themselves. But over time, that become self-loathing and guilt, which exacerbates the low self-esteem issue.
So what can you do if you find that you keep doubting your own self-worth and feel useless all the time?
Sometimes we can suffer from low self-esteem because of issues we have with our appearance. These may be long term issues that go right back to childhood. All it takes is a few careless words to give a kid a complex for life. Losing weight is something that many people do to try and give themselves a boost. But what if the problem is something you can’t change by yourself?
Another example is that of crooked teeth. The majority of people who need it have corrective orthodontic work done when they are a kid. But for one reason or another, it doesn’t alway happen. Many adults are left embarrassed by their smile because their teeth are still squint or uneven. A lot of these people will just not bother ever having the fixed because they don’t want to wear those ugly metal braces. There was always one kid called “Braceface” at school, and let’s face it; they aren’t exactly attractive now. Luckily orthodontics have improved and invisalign makes it possible to wear braces that are barely visible. This sort of technology means far more adults may feel ready to have the corrective procedure, finally!
The causes of poor self-esteem aren’t just physical problems. If you have ever been put down, bullied or belittled, you’ll know how it makes you feel. You may find yourself unable to accept compliments or praise. Why would anyone have anything good to say about someone so unworthy The only person who really thinks that is you. Chances are, you’re not all that bad. In fact, some parts are pretty darn fabulous, even if you don’t care to believe it.
Learn to accept praise and compliments. Learn to accept what you can’t change and work hard to improve what you can. Try affirmations. It may be a case of “fake it ‘til you make it,” but telling yourself good things has a surprising effect on your body and brain. It triggers you into becoming more confident as your system is fooled into believing the affirmations. Or at least, a part of them. It may take some time, but you can overcome low self-esteem. And you should try. Because you really are worth it!